I have written two books – one on relationships and one on counseling and psychotherapy, as well as several articles on addictions, depression, stress, anxiety, abuse, therapy itself, and many other topics.
Books
THIRD EDITION, 2020
Who hasn’t had trouble with relationships at one time or another? To help you to sort out why it’s hard to find someone that you love, who you can count on and are compatible with, and where you create a place called home, I’ve written a book on intimacy. Get Closer is for couples who feel distant – whether due to fighting, unhealthy relationship patterns, or drifting apart. Many of us have had several short-term relationships and have trouble finding one that lasts, and still others can’t seem to get to find the right person.
Here’s the Kindle version of my book. You can download it to nearly any device, including your home computer, once you’ve installed the free Kindle software.
Get Closer: A Gay Men’s Guide to Intimacy, 3rd edition
“This book is phenomenal! We decided that we would read one of those “self help gimmicky books” to prepare us for a life together, committed legally. What we got instead was “the relationship bible” as we call it. I LOVE this book!” NDT, Amazon Reader
“I wish I had Get Closer years ago when starting my first partnership. A terrific and useful book.” –Felice Picano, author
“An outstanding book for gay men who want to look at their relationships and improve them….” Kenneth D. George, Ph.D., University of Pennsylvania
“Of all the self help books I’ve read about male relationships, this has been unquestionably, the best.” –Dbozz, Amazon Reader
My other book is for psychotherapists, psychologists, and other mental health professionals. It was co-written with Dr. Melissa Johnson, and the impetus was having colleagues who either saw no difference in treating gay and lesbian clients or who were uncomfortable or unfamiliar with providing psychotherapy and counseling for them.
Affirmative Psychotherapy and Counseling for Lesbians & Gay Men (2003)
This is a necessary and powerful tool for any psychotherapist working with lesbians and gay men. It is filled with useful information that is insightful and timely. –Kevin Kryoka, Psy.D., Psychology Chair, Seattle University
This is an excellent guide for therapy with gay and lesbian clients! This book provides thoughtful case studies suggesting possible interventions for positive identity development within a gay friendly, therapeutic environment –Rik Isensee, LCSW, author and psychotherapist in private practice in San Francisco
Articles
Many of the blog posts were originally written under the name “Q Health.” a column that I used to write. More currently, I have been writing articles for a general audience, primarily due to Covid and the anxieties that were surrounding Covid and the election. Here’s a sample of my more recent articles.
Help for Covid Anxiety
Everyday Meaning
Seven Ways to Manage your Emotions, Improve your Mood, and Step Back from the Ledge
How to Make a True Apology and Find Forgiveness
Podcast
I was recently interviewed on Gay Men’s Life Lab to discuss certain relationship challenges and how to overcome them. You can listen to it here